Culture

Don't Jump Off A Bridge

“If everyone else was jumping off a bridge, would you do it too?”

Maybe that was something you heard growing up. The truth is, we are just as susceptible to peer pressure as adults as we were as children. And even as worship leaders, we can feel pressure to participate because it is what everyone else is doing. Song choice, style, format, aesthetic, technology - just because ‘everyone’ is doing it doesn’t mean you have to.

So much of what we do is gray, and requires a knowledge of our people, our culture, and our the communities in which we serve. As worship leaders our decisions about what, why, when, and how should be measured over and against the mission, vision, and values of our church and a philosophy of ministry.

I am incredibly grateful for the way technology, and the internet gives us access to songs, churches, worship leaders, training, and artist we would otherwise not know. But one of the downsides to this reality is that we can only see the outworking of another group’s philosophy of ministry. When we simply adopt the songs, style, or aesthetic of another church, group, or worship leader, our services can easily become cheap, karaoke versions of something that was originally crafted with intention. We want the look, feel, style, and response we see on those beautifully lit, and mixed YouTube videos, when our unique contexts look nothing like what we see online.

I am not saying, ‘Don’t use those songs…,’ I use those songs! But do not let what you see, or what others are doing be the single most significant determining factor in the decisions you make as a worship leader. Do the hard work of understanding your people (the congregation), and your team (the skills, gifts, and weaknesses), and allow the mission of your church, and your philosophy of worship to shape the decisions that you make.

Leading In Different Cultures

I think and write about culture regularly. I am fascinated by the way our families, cities, countries, and the age in which we live shape our lives, values, priorities, and the things that we celebrate and demonize. As worship leaders we carry our own cultural background into every environment where we serve - this is true even if you were born, raised, and lead in your hometown. We bring our own unique culture into the collective culture of a team, and a church, as we attempt to shepherd all of these cultures - including our own - to more faithfully embody the person and work of Christ.

My family lived in England for four-plus years, and I have had the chance to lead worship internationally and cross-culturally a number of times. While these opportunities have been gifts of kindness toward me, they have also shaped how I lead worship week in and week out at my home church in North Carolina. Maybe some of these thoughts will help you in your leading as well:

I bring my own culture. Every person has been uniquely wired by God, uniquely shaped by their family of origin, their country of origin, and the people and times in which they come up. If I want to effectively serve in any space, I must first realize that I have a specific way of seeing and being in the world. And that way is different from other people.

It’s just different. One culture or way of seeing the world is not right and the other wrong - they are just different. And in all things, there are pieces of our culture that need to be received, redeemed, or rejected. Truthfully, I believe this is one of the hardest parts of leading cross-culturally. You do not realize how many things you have turned into ‘gospel issues’ that are mere preferences, or cultural norms. Often I am first aware of a growing frustration - ugh, why are they doing that? Why did they say that? Clearly, they don’t care about… One of the things I am learning is that frustration can be an indicator light that I could be bumping up against cultural differences. And if I can invite the Holy Spirit to help me see specifics rather than a cloud of annoyance and frustration, in the Spirit’s power I am better equipped to laugh about, give grace toward, speak to, or just forget about my own frustration with differences.

Whose image? A fellow American living in England said to me: “Our goal in being here is not to make these British people more American, it’s to help them be more like Christ.” If we do not have an awareness of our own culture, and the differences in other people, we will naturally make people in our own image. We will hold up, value, and celebrate the things that are most like the best versions of ourselves - rather than constantly, and continually asking God to conform each of us to the image of Christ. A culture being conformed to the image of Christ will uniquely image the beauty, and diversity of God to the world.

Don’t swing the pendulum. Lead lovingly as the Spirit shapes you, and the culture. Unless there are things that need to be outright rejected, you can let go of the desire to correct the culture, as you prayerfully and scripturally lead toward a better way. Less directing, and more invitation.

A culture that values efficiency may need to be invited to linger.

A culture that values theology may need to be invited toward doxology.

A culture that values head knowledge may need to be invited to engage their hearts.

A culture that values individuality may need to be invited to think corporately.

A culture that values a small, family feel, may need to be invited to consider the outsider.

A culture that values beauty may need to be invited toward intentionality.

A culture that values excellence may need to be invited toward humility.

And the reverse is also true. All these things and more. May we be leaders who see, know, receive, redeem, and reject the culture which has shaped us and the ones we lead.

Kenyan Reflections

‘We would like the team to lead worship in several languages…’ That request came along with the invitation to lead worship for the global assembly of a large missions organization that would be hosting its annual conference outside of Nairobi, Kenya. I had led worship in English and Spanish before, but never on this kind of scale. But part of leading worship is learning how to serve the people.

And this gathering would be made up of over 200 missionaries from multiple countries. Graciously, the Lord provided a team of amazingly talented musicians to help me lead, who could also carry some of the languages needed for our time in Kenya.

I have a post coming in a few months that will outline some of the things I have learned about leading worship in various cultures, but for the moment, let me leave you with this encouragement: the Church is global, diverse, and advancing. I pray that these small glimpses of a global church will fuel joy and enthusiasm in my daily serving within my local church… I hope you have the opportunity for those glimpses as well.

SUNDAY

  • Doxology (English, Spanish, French)

  • Abide

  • Goodness of God (English, French)

  • 10,000 Reasons

MONDAY

  • Mambo Sawa Sawa (Swahili, English)

  • Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus (English, French)

  • O Praise The Name (Anastasis)

  • Yet Not I, But Through Christ In Me

  • How Great Thou Art (English, Spanish, French)

  • I Love You Lord (English, Spanish, French)

  • In Christ Alone

  • Abide

  • We Fall Down (English, Spanish)

  • Agnus Dei

TUESDAY

  • Hosanna (Praise Is Rising) (English, French)

  • Is He Worthy

  • Great Are You Lord (English, Spanish)

  • Our God

  • How Great Is Our God (English, French)

  • Yet Not I, But Through Christ In Me

  • Blessed Be Your Name

  • Wonderful, Merciful Savior

  • Abide

  • There Is A Higher Throne

  • Jesus Paid It All

  • Doxology (English, Spanish, French)

Charity, Keith, Aaron, and Akim. The outdoor event space where we led. One of our speakers, Rene.

Shifting The Culture

We are always building culture.

We shape the culture and the culture shapes us.

As leaders, specifically, those who oversee an area of ministry, we have a responsibility to intentionally form, clearly articulate, and faithfully model the culture we are seeking to cultivate.

Intentionally form. You are forming the culture of your team right now. Rather than haphazardly letting it grow wild, cultivate, till, prune toward the kind of culture you believe with honor God and serve His people - both the congregation and the team - well.

Clearly articulate. Much teaching and training is caught, but it is also important to teach, train, and articulate the kind of cultural values you are seeking to develop among the team. We cannot expect people to embrace and embody a culture if we articulate it one time, this is an ongoing, repeated conversation.

Faithfully model. Our behavior reveals our values. I can say that I value being healthy and in shape, but if I do not consistently eat well, and exercise, those are just words, not values. As leaders we always go first - we must show our team how to carry the culture. Do not give up, or lose heart. Consistency is essential in establishing and shifting anything meaningful.

Ultimately real change is only possible through the empowering and ongoing work of the Holy Spirit. But if we neglect to continually cultivate our culture, the strongest personalities and cultural forces will shape, and disciple our team. Our cultures will grow either way, so why not intentionally invest beauty, goodness, and truth into what is growing in your team?

Identifying Team Culture

Last week I wrote about identifying the culture of your church. This week I want to take a look at how to identify the culture of your worship team. In many ways, identifying the culture of your team is similar - to identify the culture of your team you must be in relationship with the team members, you need to observe over time, and you need to ask questions. But as a church has a unique culture, so does a team functioning within the church community.

Are you stepping into a team that already exists?

No group of people is a blank slate. These are people who have served together, who have history, who have been formed and discipled, who have shared together. What things have historically been normative? What does the team value? What is the shared language and understanding of the mission and vision of the team?

Are you building something from scratch?

If you are church planting or beginning a new area of ministry within your church - you are the culture. Vision is important - without it, the people will perish (Proverbs 29:18). But we must also be open-handed enough to shift, change, and grow and God gives the growth (1 Corinthians 3:6).

Much of the work of identifying the culture of your team is so you can determine what needs to be celebrated and redeemed, and what needs to be rejected entirely. In what way has the team been formed? In what ways do they need to be counter-formed?

When I was living abroad a fellow American once shared with me, ‘The goal of serving here is not to make people become more American, it is to help them be more like Jesus.’ What would it look like for the people on your team to serve in this culture, with these skills, on this team as Jesus would serve? What would their life and ministry look like free from the weight of sin?

Culture-making is discipleship. And discipleship is the long-long, ongoing work of the Spirit and the community. Learn. Grow. Celebrate. Reject. Be counter-formed by the Gospel.

Identifying Church Culture

People are meaning-making, story-telling, culture-builders. We can identify cultural artifacts from surface observations and interactions like: does the congregation dress formally or casually? Do services begin on time, or is time more of a suggestion? Is the congregation warm and inviting, or quiet and stoic? But to truly understand the culture of our churches, we must be in relationship with the people of our church. Because it is people who make the culture.

In relationship we begin to understand and identify the values as well as the idols of the culture. These are things spoken and unspoken. The often hide just below the surface. These values and idols are exposed in our conversations, our thought process, and the way we spend our time and money. We see our culture exposed in what we fight to defend, in what we ignore, and what we cling to for life, value, significance, worth and identity. We study culture not to pander to peoples idols, but to show people how they have sought to find life outside of relationship with Christ.

Every country has a unique culture. Within a country each state and city have a unique culture. Within a city or state every community and church have a unique culture. Observe over time. Ask questions. Build relationships. Study the history and story of a community. These are the thing that will help us point our churches to a better, truer Kingdom.

The Corporate Gathering As Counter-Formation

Nashville has a lot of churches. I once heard someone describe churches in Nashville like gas stations: one on every corner. And truthfully, this description is not inaccurate. When my wife and I were getting ready to move to Nashville we had a few churches that we wanted to visit. Before we moved, I spent time watching set lists and sermons from the church we ultimately called home. I remember being impressed that this particular church had a number of gifted worship leaders on staff and quickly had arranged them in order of my personal preference. But something interesting happened as we began attending the church. My ordered list of worship leaders inverted.

I think this is because what I read as ‘slow’ or ‘bland’ online, I saw clearly as loving and pastoral in person. Matt Smethurst speaks to this reality when he said, ‘In a world forming us to be addicted to spectacle, healthy corporate worship will often feel simple and slow. That isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of countercultural strength.’ Although our home church in Nashville was by no means a loops and lasers kind of production, my mindset was the same: impress me.

Whether you are currently leading and serving in an environment that is simple and stripped back, or with high production value, we do ourselves and our congregations a disservice when we think ’spectacle’ rather than ‘slow.’ Spectacle is more concerned with week-to-week execution, slow is more concerned with spiritual formation. Spectacle short-sightedly asks the question ‘what is the best thing for this moment?’ Slow asks the question, what do we need to do now to form our people over the next twelve months, five years, fifty years?

The culture forms individuality, the corporate gathering should form a people.

The culture forms personal preference, the corporate gathering should form those who consider other more highly than self.

The culture forms personal authority, the corporate gathering should form people who surrender their own will, die to self, and follow Christ.

The culture forms a view of personal assets, the corporate gathering should form people who know all we have is gift and grace, entrusted by God, stewarded by us, and ultimately belongs to Him.

The culture forms people to think first of self, the corporate gathering should form people who first seek to serve.

The currents of culture are strong. But the Gospel is stronger. How can we as worship leaders ensure that the way we lead is counter-formational?

The Corporate Gathering As Spiritual Formation

Every church on the planet has wrestled through more than a year of COVID restrictions, shutdowns, and online church. Our world has changed, and continues to change. As churches and leaders continue to navigate what ministry looks in 2021 and beyond, questioning the purpose of the corporate gathering should continue to shape the decisions we make, as well as the way we lead and serve the people of God. If we can safely and comfortably consume all of the spiritual content necessary for the maturity of our faith online, why would we meet in person? But do we believe that attending church is about more than consuming spiritual content?

Scripture certainly seems to think so… When we gather together, God is uniquely present with His people (Ps 22:3, Matt 18:20), we are reminded of the family to which we belong (Eph 2:19, 1 Pet 2:10), we are mutually built up and edified (Eph 2:11-12, Col 3:16), we grow in love for one another as witnesses to a watching world (Eph 4:3, Jn 13:35), we grow in strength for our mission (Eph 3:14-18, Matt 28:19-20), and so much more. All of this points to the reality that the corporate gathering is not as much about consuming spiritual content as it is about being formed spiritually - discipling the people of God. We are not just singing songs, not just hearing sermons, not just chatting with friends, we are slowly being formed as a people again and again, over and over, week after week, year after year.

Everything is formative (James K.A. Smith, lays out this idea beautifully in ‘You Are What You Love’). Part of being human is being formed and shaped in subtle and significant ways by an endless array of relationships, history, work, free time, social media, news, and our culture. Standing in contrast to the currents of cultural formation is the corporate worship gathering. In the corporate worship gathering we are re-formed, reoriented, as we recenter the entirety of our lives around the person and work of Christ. In the gathering we are being reminded of who Jesus is, what He has done, who we are, and who He has called us to be. We are being invited to behold Him once again, and to live in response to Him by laying down our lives as we are sent out on mission to love and serve Christ and His world.

As worship leaders, pastors, and church leaders we must see the corporate gathering as one of the most essential components of spiritually forming God’s people in their mission, in their understanding of the Scriptures, in their theological development, and in the cultivation of affections and desires for Christ. This is not a work that we can undertake alone, the deep, long-lasting spiritual formation of God’s people is only possible by the empowering work of His Spirit. But if we are to see our corporate gatherings spiritual form a malformed people, we must see a bigger vision, and be patient as we partner in the long, slow, deep work of discipleship.

The Holy Spirit And Leading

Last week I wrote about listening to the voice of the Holy Spirit in our preparation. That being attentive to the Holy Spirit and leading spontaneously and speaking, praying, and communicating extemporaneously does not necessarily equate to being led by the Holy Spirit - that we can in fact be led by the Spirit in our preparation. But what about the corporate gathering? What does it look like to be led by the Spirit there?

It still looks like prayer. Union with Christ, communication with the Holy Spirit. Asking Him, seeking Him, inviting Him to do what only He can do - lead people to Jesus, convict people of sin, comfort people in their affliction, transform hearts and lives. For me, I will often leave more space in between verses, or a chorus, or in between songs as I ask the Spirit to speak to me, and I press in to hear Him.

It looks like observation. It can be tempting when we are leading worship to simply close our eyes and get lost in our own private worship world. But we are there to serve people by leading them in song. As you listen to the voice of the Spirit, listen to the voice of the people - watch them, pray for them, let their response or lack thereof shape the way that you communicate and lead. Not so much in a ‘give the people what they want,’ kind of way - but as a shepherd, leading and guiding them to see and respond to the Holy Spirit.

It looks like communication with your team and the congregation. In rehearsal practice and communicate to your team the moments where you may do something different than planned. I heard Charlie Hall one time talk about how preparing for moments of spontaneity with his team was like opening a window - everyone knew where those window moments would be in the song or the setlist, and they would approach together, open the window, see if the Spirit was using that opportunity to lead them in a direction different than they had planned. I have often found it helpful to communicate to the team something along the lines of ‘when we get to this point of the song, I think we will either go here or here…’. Maybe that’s repeating something we have already sung, maybe that is tagging something from another song. But communicating prior to being in the moment so that your band can be aware, and know how you’d like them to respond is important. Likewise, we must communicate with the person running lyrics - having options ready, and preparing them for where things may change, and any kind of verbal cues you may give to help them lead with you rather than trying to catch you. And finally, we must communicate with the congregation. Leading them through, rather than running out ahead and asking them to try and keep up. Verbal cues, inviting them to sing with you, inviting them to lean into the voice of the Spirit together.

We can be Holy Spirit-led in our preparation and in our leadership. But we can be neither if we are not Holy Spirit-led in our daily lives.

Team Meetings

There is a little ribbon I’ve seen online - the kind that you got for track meets in elementary school - that says, ‘This meeting could have been an email.’ Especially in our (post) COVID world, why would we meet when so much can be communicated digitally? Especially as people who lead teams of volunteers - aren’t we already asking for enough of their time? Truth be told, I’ve never been a fan of meetings, but I do think there are some essential things that happen when you gather a team - yes, even a team of volunteers.

See people.

There is a temptation to see people as objects, serving a utilitarian purpose in accomplishing what we are trying to do in a worship service. When we gather with our team outside of our shared weekend responsibility, we can see them removed from a task, and simply as people. People who have relationships, responsibilities, pain, interests outside of what you get to glimpse for a few hours during your time together.

Be together.

Depending on how many people participate in your team, there may be several people who do not actually know one another. Giving people the opportunity to grow and develop relationships outside of a Sunday service will help to develop trust, camaraderie, and respect - that will serve the team, the congregation, and the songs better as you lead together.

Cast vision.

We can and should lead by example. We can and should work to communicate clearly and effectively in digital correspondence. But there is something different about having your team together to be able to articulate all at once the vision and direction of the team as well as the goals and desires within this area of ministry. I have found team meetings to be an amazing time to teach theology, to help the team see that what we do is so much larger than playing music, sliding faders, clicking slides. I want to be able to connect the 30,000 foot view of this area of ministry, to what the team does week in and week out.

Celebrate.

I tend to be task driven, and when one task is complete, I am ready to move on to the next. When we do not take time to pause, reflect, and remember, we can quickly run ourselves, and our team into the ground. Raise your ebeneezers - those stones of remembrance - mark out God’s faithfulness to your church and the team, let gratitude be a consistent heart posture, honor the work and growth of those who are serving week in and week out as a part of your ministry. One of my favorite pastors was fond of saying, ‘Everyone you meet is under-encouraged,’ may that not be true of anyone on our teams.

Show hospitality.

Our teams pour themselves out to serve God and His people each weekend, how can we as leaders pour ourselves into them? Use your home, use your church building to make a space that is inviting and hospitable for the team. Share a meal, or make some coffee and desserts. Create a space where your team feels valued, safe, and cared for.

Little things over a long period of time make such a difference in shaping people, shaping culture, and serving your team. Don’t use meetings as the place to shotgun information, or vent frustrations, but as a place where people can get to know one another, feel valued and celebrated, and you are able to articulate the mission, vision and values of this particular area of ministry.

Creating a Culture of Feedback

In any role, feedback is essential for growth.  If we desire for ourselves and our team members to grow, we must create a consistent, and safe space to give and receive feedback.  Here are some things to consider when trying to establish a consistent and safe feedback environment:

Creating new rhythms.  If your team currently has no opportunity or rhythm to give and receive feedback, recognize that you will have to create new rhythms and patterns.  Creating a new culture, setting a new direction usually takes much longer than you would like or expect.  Don’t get discouraged, stay the course, it will pay off in the long run.

Give the why.  One of the best pieces of feedback I was ever given was ‘you have a reason and intention behind all that you’re doing with the team, but they don’t understand those reasons - walk them through the decisions you make and help them see why.’  People are often more willing to support an idea when they understand the larger purpose and intention driving the decisions.

Remove sarcasm.  Sarcasm is a cowardly way, to tell the truth.  It sets up a dynamic where people don’t understand what is honest and what is joking.  Laugh and enjoy one another, but removing sarcasm from the way you relate and interact will allow times of feedback to not be clouded by misunderstanding.

Set the time and space.  Whether it is immediately following a service, or between services, find the time, place, and time where everyone knows that feedback will occur.  This allows people to expect, and anticipate what is coming.  And avoids situations where feedback is only given when something goes catastrophically wrong.

Go first.  Invite feedback from your leaders, pastors, and the team.  Point out things you wish you would have done better, or changes you’re planning to make for the next time.  As leaders, we need to model what we want to see.

Celebrate.  Part of creating healthy rhythms of feedback is celebrating and honoring the good, not only pointing out the opportunities for improvement.  What can you celebrate in the team as a whole and the individual members?  Not just in their playing but the way they are serving, the heart behind their participation, and what God is doing in them and through them.

The team and the individual.  Some feedback needs to be given in front of the whole team, some feedback needs to be given face-to-face with the individual.  If there is a larger, deeper issue that needs to be addressed, it will always be better to cool your own emotions, and set a time with the individual outside of the regular rhythm of feedback.

Feedback is essential for growth.  Let’s serve our teams well by giving timely, honoring, consistent feedback, and inviting the same from our leaders and team.

Diversity In The Corporate Worship Space

When it comes to corporate worship in the gathered Church, one of the questions I am asked most frequently is ‘How do I create more diversity?’ On the surface, I do not think it is a bad question. Because really what people are asking, seeking, and desiring is for their Churches to resemble heaven - where people from every tribe, tongue, and nation worship before the throne of God (Rev 7:9).

But I have a two-fold dilemma with this question. First, when most people speak of diversity they have failed to realize the diversity already present within their congregations. Second, when people say they want a diverse church, what many mean is they want ethnic representation in their church. Most of us are unaware, or unwilling to do the hard, continued work of diversity and instead settle for representation.

Dilemma One: Missed Diversity

Merriam-Webster’s defines Diversity as the condition of having or being composed of differing elements. That means if your church has men and women, young and old, mature in the faith, and new believers, differing socioeconomic brackets, those from different denominations, varied families of origin, the intelligent and the simple, employed and unemployed, married and unmarried, those who are well and those who are sick, and on and on, you are in fact a diverse Church. Charles Spurgeon said, ‘When we get annoyed by the church’s empty seat, we are guilty of sinning against the filled one.’ I believe this is true with diversity as well. Should we fight for diversity on all fronts, including ethnic diversity? Absolutely. But let us also be aware, and grateful for the diversity with which God has already entrusted to our communities as we lean into becoming a community that grows in its reflection the glorified Bride of Christ.

Dilemma Two: Settling for Representation

The Church in America has slowly, painfully been coming face to face with the reality of racism which is enmeshed in our country, and sadly, in our churches as well. We must continue to own, confess, and bear fruit in keeping with repentance (Matt 3:8), as individuals and collectively as the Church. There is a temptation I feel in myself, and have seen in the majority culture - to desire the appearance of ethnic representation, without having the cost which is associated with true diversity. If we are truly serious about living as a diverse community, that will require a continual process of dying to self - empowering others with influence and authority, considering others greater than ourselves, surrendering our own preferences, making space, and celebrating the image and gifts of God by those who look, think and serve in ways that may seem unfamiliar.

Diversity in Corporate Sung Worship

My experience tells me that pastors often look to corporate sung worship as a unifier in the desire for diversity. Music is often touted as a ‘universal language.’ Which may be true to an extent until you look at Church history along with its so-called ‘worship wars.’ Viewing music within the gathered Church as a silver bullet to a sustained, embodied diverse community is as arrogant as it is naive.

So what are we to do as worship leaders and liturgists - especially those of us that find ourselves in may appear a monolithic culture - to foster greater diversity within our realm of responsibility within the Church? Here are a few ideas…

Have men and women co-lead together. Trading-off leading songs, transitions, prayer, and Scripture readings.

Find outside songs. It can be easy to pick from the same pool of songs all the time: ‘oh, I like/trust this church, or these writers, I’ll use everything they put out.’ Find songs outside your tribe. Songs written by women. Songs from other countries and other centuries.

Using ‘high’ and ‘low’ language. Whether it is with hymns or prayers from the Book of Common Prayer, archaic language gives us the ability to hear, pause, and learn something outside of the normal pedestrian ‘low’ language we use in everyday conversation.

Instrumentation. Are there musicians in your church who play an instrument or in a style unfamiliar to the normal Sunday gathering? What would it look like to thoughtfully incorporate those aspects into your gathering?

Invite others in. Whether it is to help plan special services, or in the normal rhythm of weekly services, allow others to help shape, lead, and serve.

Observe context, yours, and others. When you think about your context, what a handful of things you think are unique to your team, and gathering? What about areas of growth? Who are the churches and leaders who are serving their specific context well? What could you glean from those churches and leaders that could be applied to your own?

As with all formative practices, fostering diversity within the corporate worship space is a lifetime pursuit. Lasting transformation is only possible when our hearts are first, and continually surrendered to the sanctifying work of the Spirit. So let our hearts be transformed, so that we have the stamina, intention and desire to see our churches reflect the glorified Body of Christ. For His glory, and the good of the world.